Eight Great Ways to Make New Friends as an Adult

ways to make new friends as an adult

It is easy to make new friends as a kid in school, but as an adult it can be more difficult, especially if you move to another city after graduation. As well, as adults our lives quickly become quite hectic as we focus on our careers, perhaps do some travel, manage a household on our own, and even get married and have children. As kids we had lots of free time to hang out with friends, socialize, go out for dinner and drinks, and go to sporting events, and so on. As adults we sometimes wonder if we will ever have “free time” again. And because of that lack of free time, any friendships that we may have typically begin to suffer and dwindle away, simply due to lack of attention.

As an adult do you find that you have fewer friends than you use to have? Do you find it difficult to meet new people and make new friends? Here are eight great ways to make new friends. Hopefully you will be able to try at least a few of them and meet a couple of nice new people that you would enjoy spending time with.

Great Ways to Make New Friends

Continuing Education Classes

Taking a night school class is the perfect way to meet like minded people and strike up new friendships. Yes, you could take a class that relates to your career, or you could take a fun class such as a gourmet cooking class, wood-working, scrap booking, decorating, etc.

Classes typically run for seven to ten weeks which will give you plenty of time to chat with everyone. If you meet a few people that you enjoy, suggest that you get together for coffee or a drink after class.  

Local Community Centre Activity Nights

Do you have a local community centre in your neighbourhood? We do, and quite often they have a calendar of events that people can attend. You can head over in the evening and play volleyball, badminton, or even take dance lessons. During the week they organize activities for the 55+ Club. Things such as playing cards, crocheting, quilting, playing chess, etc.

MeetUp

Over the past 10 years or so, meetup.com has become extremely popular. People attend networking sessions and business seminars that have been organized via meetup.com. Others attend social gatherings with those that share a common interest.

Social gatherings include everything from getting together in someone’s home to play cards, to doing a Pub Crawl, or to simply having a BBQ in a local park. Whatever the event is, you will find that most of the people that attend are there to make new friends, just like you are.

Join a League

There are so many different leagues that you can join these days. Some suggestions are:

  • Bowling League
  • Baseball League
  • Curling League
  • Darts
  • Frisbee

Join the Running Room

If you would love to learn how to run, or already know how, but would like to run with others and make new friends, consider joining the Running Room. They offer group lessons and seminars. And after a good run you can invite the others out for coffee. The Running Room calendar is active year round as well.

Bring a Friend Pot Luck

One of my favourite ways to make new friends is to host a BFPL – Bring a Friend Pot Luck dinner. The way it works is you invite three or four people that you are already friends with and ask each of them to bring a friend and a pot luck dish for everyone to share. Keep it casual and fun.

The intent is that they will bring people you do not already know, and hopefully by the end of the day you will have made a few new friends.

Volunteer

As an adult volunteering is a great way to make new friends because you and the others that are there already have something in common. Take it slowly and make a point of getting to know some of the other volunteers. Once you feel comfortable, suggest that a few of you get together to go hiking, or some other fun activity.

Church Socials

Church socials can be a lot of fun. Sometimes you will meet on a Wednesday afternoon to play cards. Other times you might have Sunday dinner together or do a large family picnic in the summer. Fun events always make it easier to meet people and get to know them better.

Maintaining Friendships

Of course once you make new friends the next step is to make an effort to stay in touch with them. As a busy person, do not feel pressured to stay in touch with them everyday like you did with the friends you went to school with. Instead, suggest a monthly get together for dinner, coffee, a movie, or whatever you enjoy doing. This gives you something fun to look forward to, and it is a great way to stay in touch with your friends.

Over to You

As an adult where do you meet new friends? Do you find it easy or difficult?


Comments

    • Corina Ramos

      Corina Ramos 03/05/2014 11 a.m. #

      Great post Sicorra!

      I think it was Sylviane's blog I read where she stated children make friends easy because they have no walls built up like adults do. I believe that too.

      I still have some friends from when I worked at ATT. We get together every other month for dinner to catch up and see how everyone is doing.

      I love the tips you shared. I think good friends and good food is a great combo so the idea of a pot luck sounds like fun.

      I've made some friends volunteering at church too. They're older than me but I like to hear their stories. :) The only down side is being friends with the Pastor and not going to church that's uncomfortable lol :)

      Happy Wednesday! Talk to ya soon!

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 03/06/2014 11:42 a.m. #

        Yes, as kids we make friends easy. Play with another kid for 15 minutes without any issues and you probably become quick friends. Adults are more set in their ways, busier, and very selective about who they spend their free time with.

        I was thinking about your dinner group while I wrote this. You are very fortunate to keep in touch with them, and the people you meet at church.

    • Shannon @ The Heavy Purse

      Shannon @ The Heavy Purse 03/05/2014 11:02 a.m. #

      Great tips, Sicorra! It is true that it seemed so easy and natural to make friends through school. But as adults, it can be difficult at times. Work friends are great but sometimes the only thing you ever talk about is work! Chris and I do enjoy socializing so we try to stay active in our community and Church. Our neighborhood is pretty close-knit too so that helps as well.

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 03/06/2014 11:48 a.m. #

        Work friends can be great, it all depends on where you work. Some adults have a policy that they prefer not to socialize with the people they work with. Yet I have noticed over the past several years that new, young companies actually plan after hours events and encourage all staff to socialize.

        You are fortunate that your neighbors are so friendly too.

    • Tanya @ Eat Laugh Purr

      Tanya @ Eat Laugh Purr 03/11/2014 4:13 p.m. #

      I have actually noticed that it is harder to make friends as adults, especially when I moved to a new city. I had work friends but we didn't really socialize outside of work. At first I didn't even really notice since most nights I just wanted to go home and chill out. But I noticed on the weekends, when I sat alone in my apartment. The older you are, the more established your friendships are so you don't always automatically think to invite new people or outsiders. Great tips. I find classes are a good place to meet new people and get out.

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 03/12/2014 9:36 a.m. #

        I know exactly what you mean Tanya. When I first moved away from home it didn't really bother me to be on my own. But once the weekends come for some reason you just feel like you should be doing something with someone. I find it funny now, because these days my weekends are pretty quiet and I love it.

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