Simple Ways to Boost Your Self Confidence and Achieve Your Goals

boost your self confidence and achieve your goals

We all have times in our life when we feel inadequate and useless. Even if we have good jobs, manage a household, and successfully raise a family, we still feel like we just don’t quite measure up. We just aren’t as successful as we thought we would be by this point in our lives. We aren’t living in our dream house or earning the amount of money we thought we would be by now. All of those thoughts weigh heavy on our minds and the unfortunate part is that those thoughts prevent us from moving forward and achieving our goals and dreams. Those negative thoughts stop us dead in our tracks. We stop learning and growing. We stop trying anything new because we see ourselves as failures, so why bother trying. If left unattended, we could easily end up discouraged and depressed. Do you feel like you may be one of these people?

Perhaps your self-doubt stems from some negative experiences you had when you were a kid. For example, if people made fun of you when you were a child, you might doubt your abilities even today.

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Traumatic experiences can cause a vicious cycle of self-doubt in your mind.

Teachers, parents, and other children can sometimes inadvertently say things that have a powerful impact for both good and bad. The bad messages become ingrained in our subconscious and have a way of killing our self-esteem, even years later. So, how do you turn things around and stop that nagging voice in your head that says you’ll never be good enough?

Here are some tactics to help you erase that doubt and become more confident:

Let Go of Negative Criticism of Yourself

This applies to both past and present. Don’t let a jerk of a boss ruin your day by simply adding his voice to the tape player in your head. Realize that he may be taking his anger out on someone else because of his own inadequacies. People’s negative attitudes speak volumes about them, not about you!

  • Stop replaying those negative comments in your head. By agreeing with those who criticize you, you’re giving them all the power.
  • Stop paying attention to that voice in your head that’s saying you’re going to fail. If you stop listening, it will get quieter and eventually disappear.
  • Reclaim your life by believing that you can and will succeed.
  • Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you.

Prepare Yourself and Do Your Best

It’s not enough just to think positively; you have to actively pursue success as well. Visualizing your end goal can help you make the right choices, but no one can do the work except you.

One way to overcome self-doubt is to write down your positive qualities.

Make a list of at least five things you are good at. Every day when you wake up read the list. Reading aloud will also help you to believe the items you’ve listed.

The positive thinking will help prepare your mind to succeed, but there are other ways you can help yourself achieve your goals as well:

Set Reasonable Goals

Decide what you want to do within a set amount of time.

Keep your goals realistic so you can meet them. If you set unrealistic goals that you can’t meet, you’ll quickly become discouraged. 

Start out small at first and get bigger with your dreams.

Take Action

Inactive people easily become depressed. To avoid this unpleasant situation, immerse yourself in achieving your goals. Hard work will always pay off in the end.

Related: 8 Steps to Help You Rebuild Your Life and Be Successful

Celebrate Your Success

Self-doubters tend to think they don’t deserve to succeed. But you do!

You deserve a reward for conquering your self-doubt and becoming more self confident. You deserve to be honored for your hard work and perseverance. 

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Just remember you can’t reach the top of a mountain in one giant leap; it takes many steps along the way to reach the peak in due time. The same is true of success and achieving your goals.

Taking baby steps and achieving many small successes will bring you the confidence to reach your dreams. In the meantime, sit back and enjoy the journey to becoming the self-assured, happy and successful person you know you can be. It’s a wild ride, but its well worth it in the end.


Comments

    • Shannon @ The Heavy Purse

      Shannon @ The Heavy Purse 06/10/2014 11:08 a.m. #

      Great tips, SIcorra. I find my self-confidence is most vulnerable around negative people. Their negative energy just seems to affect mine and lower my confidence. I start to doubt myself too. While we can't always avoid negative people, I try to surround myself with as many positive people and influences as I can. It really makes a difference. I also keep a folder of all the great, thank you/you made a difference in my life kind of emails I receive. I can reread them on days where I need a boost.

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 06/10/2014 11:53 a.m. #

        I love the idea of keeping a folder of emails that you receive that say thank you. I completely understand how those make you feel good when you feel like you ar having a bad day. Those types of acknowledgement motivate me more than anything to be a better person and do a better job.

        Thanks for sharing that tip Shannon!

    • Stephanie

      Stephanie 06/10/2014 12:10 p.m. #

      I love that you brought up this topic, Sicorra. It's rarely spoken of and all so true. I think at some point in every persons life that the "inadequate" feeling comes around and tries to take over. I can count plenty of times where I feel like I've worked like a crazy mad woman all day long and really didn't get much accomplished. But, you are so right, thinking positively and pushing right on through works wonders, especially when you focus on the success! Thanks for the great read girl!

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 06/10/2014 4:26 p.m. #

        Yes, being able to push right through it is so important. It is when we dwell on the negative things that we get stuck, and the longer we do that the worse things seem to feel. It is like our world of negativity expands and grows out of control. So nipping it in the bud is so important.

        Thanks so much for stopping by!

    • Tanya @ Eat Laugh Purr

      Tanya @ Eat Laugh Purr 06/10/2014 3:34 p.m. #

      Are you in my head again, Sicorra? I have found myself doing way too much negative self-talk lately and it needs to stop NOW. I do exactly what you said - record everything negative and play it on an infinite loop in my mind. Ugh. It's really a shame that we let people get inside of our heads and put so much weight on the negative, rather than the positive. I'm really trying to surround myself my positive people too. I have noticed that I just feel drained after dealing with constantly negative friends. We all have bad days where we need to vent, but some people are on the negative 24/7 and I need to do a better job of separating myself from them.

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 06/10/2014 4:28 p.m. #

        Hey Tanya, negative talk happens to many of us all too frequently. I have been consumed by it recently too.
        I have read that those that talk negatively to us repeatedly are known as "toxic people" and no one needs toxic people in their life. Separating yourself is in your best interest.

        Wishing you the best Tanya!

    • Natalie @ Financegirl

      Natalie @ Financegirl 06/11/2014 7:48 a.m. #

      I'm currently reading "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill and he discusses how major successes often come right after failures. So, it's important to rid yourself of the self doubt and persist through any failures.

      • Sicorra

        Sicorra 06/11/2014 2:30 p.m. #

        I read that years ago and remember that too Natalie. That is why it is so hard to know when to continue working on a specific goal and when to quit, at least for me. Following through is so important but knowing when to change direction is key too.

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